Holidays can be especially hard after the loss of a loved one. Feeling down when the rest of the world is celebrating is a difficult part of grieving. This time of year can magnify the loss, making each emotion more painful. It’s normal to feel like you might never enjoy the holiday season ever again; but in time, most people are able to find joy in traditions again. It’s also okay to be happy. Happiness doesn’t diminish how much you care about your loved one or how much you miss them. Check out some of the options below to help cope:
- Try the holiday in a new way – make new traditions with family and friends. Think about what you enjoy about the holiday and skip the things you don’t.
- Gather those you love and celebrate the life of your loved one. Spend time together reminiscing about good times.
- Skip the holiday all together. It is completely okay to not feel like celebrating, you can take the year off.
- Join a grief group and express yourself. The need for support may be most intense during the holidays.
Be kind to yourself and protect your feelings. Don’t do more than you want, and don’t do anything that doesn’t feel right. Allow yourself time to heal and let others help and be there for you.
Covenant Care provides bereavement support for grieving adults and children. To learn more, visit www.choosecovenant.org.